100 Questions To Ask Before Saying I Do

The first time I heard of a premarital questionnaire I thought it was a joke and laughed at the idea. But as I read the questions, I couldn’t believe I went through a marriage without completing one. It wasn’t just me, no one I knew had ever heard of such a thing.  It is so critical, especially in today’s society where divorce rates are running high.  One ministry of social services in an Arab states reported that in a given year, for every one couple getting married, there were three couples divorcing! While no questionnaire can save a marriage, it may help you avoid one doomed for divorce.

Here’s how it works:

If you go to the ADAMS center in the state of Virginia to get married, the Imam will suggest that you and your fiancee take a 100 question “test” individually, then compare your answers. If they match, you’re good to go. If they don’t, you visit the Imam for a series of premarital counseling sessions.

The questionnaire covers a range of topics: core values, health, raising children, religious relationship, In-laws, friendships and more.

Here’s a sample:

What are your expectations of marriage?
What is your definition of wealth? And how do you spend money?
What is the role of religion in your life?
Do you support the idea of utilizing baby-sitters and maids?
Define mental, verbal, emotional, and physical abuse.

They sound simple, but as you run through the list, you’ll find several questions that spark a conversation, debate, or disagreement. So here’s my suggestion, before planning a wedding, get ready for a lifetime commitment.

What do you think of this idea? Would you be willing to do a questionnaire like this before getting married? 

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